The cultural expectations are that Asian women don’t have that kind of freedom to hang out, to go out with friends, to do the kinds of things most teenagers growing up want to do. In addition, Asian American girls are under pressure to be the perfect mothers and daughters and wives as well. They are often expected to be super moms in their near future who would be dedicated to their family and work a full time job at the same time.
Excerpt from “Young Asian American Women: Under Double Pressure” by Kristy Soyeon Kim [hardboiled] (via angryasiangirlsunited)
I listen to my colleagues from other cultural backgrounds discuss everything in terms of either family or career, and I’m always the one asking why do they think it has to be one or the other. Of course now that I think about it, I realize I’ve lived my whole life with the expectation that I will have the 2 kids & husband, and I will have a kick-ass career. Most [but not all] of my Asian female friends were raised with the same expectation, and while I would like to say that maybe that’s not so bad because we’re all doing pretty well in our careers and most are married or in serious relationships, I realize that none of us have kids yet so the supermom expectations haven’t kicked in and from what I understand, that’s when things get complicated.